I awoke to a sunny San Francisco morning and miraculously fog was nowhere to be seen. The day looked bright, but I was not feeling it. Pessimism and self-doubt ruled my world today. I was feeling tired, uninspired and fed up. I wasn’t sure what was troubling me and I knew damn well I wouldn’t...
It is the twenty first century and gender roles have evolved from the 1950’s working father and housewife mother. But, how significantly have these roles changed? Men are still assigned superior status over women in our sexist society. Men are given permission to dominate and conquer. Men are allowed to show anger, but not sadness....
Many of us have that anxious feeling running through our bodies on a regular basis. That feeling comes in a variety of states; from intense five alarm bells loudly ringing to fear running in the background of our thoughts. When this happens, folks can withdraw socially, rely on substances or get caught up in drama...
Negative energy has a profound effect on adults, teens and children. People who carry around this adverse attitude can appear to be very powerful to those in their presence. Negative energy is expressed by put downs of you or your friends. These comments are stated either directly to you or behind your back. The comments...
The first time I saw and heard Richie Havens was at the infamous Woodstock Music and Art Fair at Bethel, New York on August 15, 1969. This was a pivotal moment for me and was an amazing transition to adulthood. I had recently graduated from high school in Highland Park, New Jersey and I was...
I have been thinking about the fourth anniversary of the day I almost died. It was on April 15, 2009 when I was out for my regular five mile run when the electrical system in my heart began to drastically fail. I fainted, but found the strength to rise up and walk back home. A...
A high conflict divorce is where marriage ends and war begins. Children are frequently unwittingly used as pawns in this high stakes, emotionally bloody demolition. Kids find different ways to cope in a system that includes children and two parents who absolutely despise each other. This is a hatred that doesn’t ease up over the...
As a psychotherapist who has worked with children and adults from high conflict divorces for over twenty five years, I want to acknowledge how vital this work is. A therapist has the opportunity to heal deep seated wounds and support clients in finding their sense of wisdom, confidence, compassion and empathy for others. High conflict...
There have been dramatic studies about the science of the brain, how it works and how we can deal with our emotional pain in new ways. There have been many articles and books written in the last few years about the different parts of the brain, how they function, and how they can heal emotional...
My wife and I recently went to The Oracle Arena in Oakland, California to experience Bruce Springsteen. It was more of a revival than a concert. He was able to command twenty thousand to stand, sing and scream for three hours. This was the fourth time we witnessed a Springsteen show. This one reminded me...
