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Recovering from being told I was Stupid
We have finally had lots of sunshine the past few days crunched between days and nights of high winds, rain...
Facing Grief in Covid Times
My father died suddenly almost 56 ago. He was 56 when he died, and he would have been 112 years...
Creating Safety
Every day we see the headlines and read the newsfeed – the latest Corona surge is running amuck; the most...
The Benefits of Long-Term Therapy
There does not seem to be an agreed upon definition of long-term psychotherapy. I have been a psychotherapist in private...
Acceptance: Deciding to Put Traumatizing Memories to Rest
Acceptance is a loaded term in American society. Many suffer from what I call the closing credits syndrome. This happens...
Life Lessons Learned during the Pandemic
I am looking out the living room window. Nobody is on the street and the quiet is daunting. It is...
Promise of Better Days Ahead: Part 10 Seeking Safety
I wake up in the morning religiously at four thirty AM. I have no need to get up that early. ...
How White People Will Benefit from Fighting Racism
It was sometime during 1969 at my house in suburban New Jersey. I was eighteen years old and one...
DV(Domestic Violence) Poem
This poem is dedicated to all the women I have known in my personal and professional life who have been...
Dealing with Shelter in Place, Stay at Home Orders: COVID-19 Crisis
Many states now have issued Shelter in Place, Stay at Home Orders as ways of preventing the spread of the...
Discovering that you are Worthy
Feeling unworthy can adversely affect the quality of your life. Read on to examine this issue. Ask yourself these questions:...
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When is it Time to End a Relationship with a Lover, Friend or Family Member?
Everyone faces a crossroad sometime in their life wondering if they want to continue a relationship with a friend, lover or family member. You ponder how much crap you are supposed to take from another human being. You have always looked at his extenuating circumstances and have tolerated his verbal abuse in the past. His mother could have recently died. He may have a long-term illness and/or chronic pain. She may be a victim of
Internalized Self-Hatred: What is it? What are its Effects? How do you get Rid of it?
Written by Gail Meadows and Bob Livingstone Internalized self-hatred is a huge issue and this blog is an introduction to this phenomena. Internalized self-hatred is when you despise your own racial, ethnic, cultural, sexual and or religious identity. This self-loathing far too often results in suicide or other physical self-harm. It also manifests in far more subtle, but damaging ways. There is a belief that is either shared with others or hidden in shame, that the
Dealing with the Rage Inside and Out
I’m angry a lot lately, but I really don’t understand the intensity or frequency of my rage. I have never really been known for my patience, but at age 63, there are tons of infractions that upset me. Bad drivers and traffic jams used to be somewhat upsetting to me, but now a selfish fool driving thirty miles per hour in the passing lane makes me irate. I visualize driving behind this offender ofMarshall’s Parents Terrible Divorce: Why Doesn’t my Father want to see me?
My name is Marshall and I am twelve years old. I live in San Francisco’s Mission District with my mom and my cat. My parents got divorced about three years ago. I don’t think adults know how much divorce hurts kids. They think we should just accept these big changes in our lives and go on about our business. I think about the divorce a lot because it happened so fast and without notice. Transforming Victimization to Power
Many of us have had experiences that victimize us. You could have been a victim of rape, physical assault, racial discrimination, sexism, homophobia, ageism, disability discrimination, religious discrimination and other forms of hatred. Someone very close to you could have died suddenly. You could be going through a horrid divorce. Our immediate coping mechanisms to these traumas are varied. We may become enraged and take out all our anger on those closest to us. Eight Ways to Break through Stuck Grief
Stuck grief is experienced by many of us after we have experienced a loss. This loss could be the death of a loved one, the breakup with a partner, being fired from a job or other trauma. The symptoms of stuck grief are: Feeling like you are not making any progress in your mourning process after a year of more after the loss, Feeling numb and Experiencing an absence of joy or deep sadness, YouTransforming Grief’s Sorrow to Joy
My father was buried forty-eight years ago today. That New Jersey day was without greenery or any warmth at all. It was a cold day as we drove to the cemetery in stark South Brunswick. It was about thirty-five degrees outside; about forty five degrees warmer than the temperature inside me. I was numb as I watched the grave diggers unceremoniously toss my father’s casket into the ground. My heart was frozen as I heardSave the Children: An Open Love Letter to my Wife
Dear Gail, We have been married over forty-two years and the time has flown by. We are heading towards Medicare age and we are still going strong. I think one of the reasons our marriage has lasted so long is because we have so many things in common. We both love to play and watch sports. We are like minded politically. We are both independent thinkers who don’t want to be messed with. WeExercise for the Soul: Moving your Body can Heal Numbness, Depression and Stuck Grief
The evidence is in. Physical exercise is a medication free activity that you can do on your own. The media continues to tout its powers. A recent Newsweek article discusses how exercise can make you smarter. A current Yahoo.com article claims that exercise can grow new brain cells that alleviate depression. There is ample research that indicates exercise helps reduce anxiety and improves self esteem. It also helps you look and feel better. ExerciseSeven Ways to Discover Joy
Many of us reach a point when our lives become routine, dull, and thankless. We lose our sense of meaning and direction. There seems to be a lack of purpose and feelings of hopelessness permeate our very being. We do reach a time when we are tired of being emotionally constipated and seek out ways to break this numbing cycle. The time has come to venture into something new. Here Ways to discover joy: Listen
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