Author: bobl

You have reached an important milestone in your life and you are taking stock of how you feel about your accomplishments. You recently had a birthday and may have celebrated turning age thirty, forty, fifty, or sixty. You are pleased about many of your achievements, but feel that important goals have not been reached. If...

Many of us who have experienced emotional pain wonder if it is ever really possible to recover from it. You have been to therapy, support groups and read plenty of self-help books, but you feel unresolved about your emotional pain. You wonder if you are dealing with it in the most effective manner and you...

When do you begin to ponder your own mortality? Is this a right of passage that happens to everyone eventually? Or do we only face the possibility of our own deaths when some tragic event takes place? The tragedy may be someone close to us dying or being diagnosed with a terminal disease. Does society...

I was taught, as most of us were, that facing the death of a loved one is an action that should be avoided at all costs because it would cause too much pain. This hurting could only overwhelm you to the point where you couldn’t function. I learned that this need to deny and avoid...

Are you confused as to what kind of man you want to be? Are you unsure if you want to present the image you have of yourself to the outside world? Are you afraid that you don’t present a masculine enough profile? Do you believe that society dictates qualities and behaviors that a man is...

Many of us are anxious and looking for ways to become more relaxed. We are asked to meditate, breathe deeply or create a calming visual picture in your mind. We attempt these activities over and over again with no positive results. You may be able to relax when you are really not focusing on doing...

We all get rejected at different times in our lives. Our lovers unexpectedly break up with us. Friends terminate relationships sometimes without rhyme or reason. The job that seemed a shoe-in was not to be had. The college you banked on accepting you with open arms sends a terse rejection letter. Rejection hurts whether you...

1. Be willing to ask questions about your emotional pain. 2. Imagine that you are in a therapist’s office. Think about what questions she may ask you and then ask yourself these same questions. 3. Imagine that you are talking to a friend who is in distress. What questions would you want to ask her...